Fear of rejection

When my wife became pregnant with our first child one of my greatest fears was that my son would reject me. This fear was based on the fact that biologically I am not his father. As I stated in my very first post here on DadBloggers my kids were conceived using donor sperm.

My fear was that somehow the child (now children) would inherently know I was not their biological father and not want me to hold them, read them a story or to be there at all. Well it has worked out just the opposite. My greatest joy is that every morning all they want is to play with me and read to them. Like many families, I leave for work and my wife currently stays home with the kids. Like many mornings my daughter started crying when I got my jacket on to go and she wanted her jacket to go with me.

A book about donor conception which focuses on fears and the stigma of shame was just published where I contributed an essay from the non-biological parent’s point of view. My kids are still young so they have many years to push daddy away for all the standard reasons (I.e., adolescence etc) but for now this DI Dad is happy I have made it past round one of my fears.