Birthparents

My daughters are adopted. We met both of them in China. One thing we will probably never do is meet their birthparents. I write about this today because our little one, who is only 4, asked about her birthparents.

It started out like this:

LO: Is Yogi’s birth-mom alive? (Yogi is our 15 year old dying cat)

Mama: Well considering he is over 15 years old, probably not.

LO: Oh! Will I ever meet my birth-mom?

Mama: Ah, uh, um… truthfully? Probably not! Would I like too? Yes!

LO: I would like to too!

Sometimes even 4 year olds can have a completely perfect and logical conversation and seem that they are well beyond their years.

4 year olds are not supposed to think of these things. They should be thinking about starting to read, learning their numbers, coloring pretty pictures. What I really like is that she IS thinking about things like this. It means she is a little person and learning and growing. I will say that I want her to grow up as slowly as she can. Fast enough to be normal, and smart enough to become the woman I know she will become.